Category: Self help
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Setting Goals without the S.M.A.R.T.s
I’ve been keeping a secret for ten long years and it’s time I finally come clean. Brace yourself because this is going to be controversial and unpopular… … I hate the S.M.A.R.T. Goals method. I hate it. Unfortunately, it has not only been shoved down my throat since my time in the military, but now…
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I Stopped People-Pleasing and Started Living
I was a people pleaser and I didn’t even know it for a long time. I feel like most people pleasers don’t realize that their actions and inactions sometimes stem from deeply reinforced core beliefs, such as “No one likes you” or “You’re not enough”. I even threw in “You’re too much” just to add…
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How I Became My Own Friend
“You’re a mess.” “You’re not good at this.” “You’re not as smart as you think you are.” “You aren’t good enough.” “Who do you think you are?” “You’re nothing.” “No one likes you.” “You ruin everything.” My brain says the meanest things to me and for so long, I allowed it. I overachieved and it…
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What I Did When My PSI told me I wanted to die
Content Warning: This post contains references to death/dying, passive suicidal ideation, and active suicidal ideation. Everything is perfect. Perfect partner, perfect job, perfect house, bright future, lots of smiles and happiness. What’s wrong with you? Why do you want to die? This was my thought process over and over again everyday, multiple times per day,…
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How My Cancer Helped Me Recognize Toxic Positivity
The author discusses their personal struggle with toxic positivity during a bout with cancer, describing it as the refusal to acknowledge discomforting realities in favor of false positivity. Unable to express their fear and sadness without being told to “think positive,” the author felt increasingly isolated. Through therapy, they learned to identify toxic positivity, express…
Rachel Relates 